Think about how the two of you will get along down the road. Take your time to get to know someone’s true nature, because women often put their best foot forward at first. Chemistry Compatibility. You have to click in the physical department. Being mismatched in this area can lead to resentments and have a [...]
Another partner may stay at work and earn extra money for the women as a gesture of love and may arrive home to a mate who’s annoyed that dinner was delayed. Not only doesn’t the extra income count as giving to the relationship, it’s actually seen as detracting from the relationship. The problems can be [...]
Let’s look first at scorekeeping. Early in your relationship you didn’t consciously keep track of who was giving what. Back then, you were so excited about this attractive new soul that just being together counted for more than any individual act on his or her part. During courting, you tended to give your mate the [...]
This is not a time to complain to your partner or to your mom! Save that for later, after a good solid bonding has taken place between them. Actually, stop the complaining altogether! If problems arise on either side, handle them with the party concerned. If you complain to womanabout your new partner or vice [...]
Listen with your whole self. Paraphrase what your partner says; check to date if you understand by repeating what is said. So you are angry because you think I ignored you. Is that right? No personal attacks or criticism. Focus on solving the problem. If you want to let off steam vent, ask permission or [...]
Listen with your whole self. Paraphrase what your partner says; check to date if you understand by repeating what is said. So you are angry because you think I ignored you. Is that right? No personal attacks or criticism. Focus on solving the problem. If you want to let off steam vent, ask permission or [...]
Online dating site, because social expectations and mythology are so strong, many of my clients want guidelines for fighting fair. I’ve developed a set of Fair Fight Guidelines you may find helpful. Remember the point of the fight is to reach a solution, not to win, be right, or make your partner wrong. Remember the [...]
When I get overwhelmed by the domestic chaos of our lives, Beyond Blue provides me that outlet where I can create something new, where I can run away, however temporarily, from the stress. Hang Out with Happy Couples, If you’re hanging with a bunch of guys or women that date nothing wrong with sleeping around, [...]
What your partner believes deep down is often what shapes the way in which he/she conducts his day-to-day affairs. What are your mate’s words to live by? According to Peggy Vaughan, the author of The Monogamy Myth, 60 percent of men and 40 percent of women will have an affair at some point in their [...]
Politics, Liberal or Conservative? How your partner views what is right or wrong in a political sense tells you a lot about his/her deep inner beliefs about society, and ultimately, the way he/she will approach your relationship issues. Will his/her views cause a rift in your relationship? Television, Sitcoms or News? If your partner’s tendency [...]